As obvious as certain situations might be
sometimes, people still end up clueless. We tend to need some sort of
indication that our mind isn’t playing tricks on us. In relationships, we need
wake- up calls once in a while. No one wants to get stuck in a partnership
where love has gone sour. It’s common knowledge that a high percentage of
break- ups occur during the holidays- Valentine’s Day inclusive. So, aside from
the good old honest, one- on- one convos that might lead to a break- up, here
are five other ways to know you are wasting your love on the wrong person.
I’m principally using the male gender as the
heart- breaker; for obvious reasons (Sorry, guys!).
When he just doesn’t show up on
Valentine’s Day:
If your partner goes AWOL on Valentine’s Day,
it’s best you take the hint. He might come up with reasons to explain away his
absence. Ranging from not being in town, to working overtime or having car
issues, the absurdity of the excuses know no bounds. If he’s not laying dead in
a ditch somewhere, there is no reason why he should not be there on this day. A
guy that really wants to be with you on Valentine’s will do everything possible
to make that happen. (Skype and video conferencing all night is an option; for
those long- distance type relationships. Yes, all night.) Bottom- line: If he
does not show on Valentine’s, just move on.
When he has to leave after a short
stay:
Hearing that dreaded sentence: “Honey, I have to
leave right now. Something came up.” What could be urgent enough on Valentine’s
Day night to warrant a quick dash away from pre-planned celebrations? Work is
most likely done for the day, and there are breaks in family emergencies on
Valentine’s. What other excuse could he come up with to ruin your day? None,
except if he disrespects you enough to tell you he needs to be with his girl
friend. Then and only then should you realise that the two- weekend spa
treatment gift- package he gave you earlier was a farewell present. Weep and
move on.
When he makes a mountain out of a mole-
hill:
Of all days to be mushy and chummy, Valentine’s
is it. All differences between lovers, arguments and causes for disagreements
are swept under the carpet for this day. As soon as the next day comes, the
bickering and name- calling can resume. So, why then would he bring- up
unnecessary drama once he comes to pick you for dinner? Even while you do your
utmost to avoid a fight; employing methods that would hitherto calm him down
and he’s still agitated? Then he threatens to storm out and you plead with him,
confessing love to get him to stay and he says: “I can’t even look at you right
now?” You stare in horror as he makes good his threat, before dinner is over.
You positively have been dumped. Move on.
When his buddies have him on Valentine’s:
This option might sound ridiculous but it happens
all the time. Granted he would tell you where he is, but investigate well, he
is out with his single, unattached buddies having a pick of ladies. He would
say his pal Phil is celebrating one thing or the other, so he shouldn’t be
missing at the party. Ask him if he’d come get you so you all can celebrate
together with Phil? Hear what he says. “Oh it’s an all- men’s party. My other
friends don’t even have their girlfriends here.” Really? You choose Phil over
your girlfriend on Valentine’s? If you are not dating a gay guy, you have
obviously been dumped.
When he comes empty- handed:
Believe me, this is a huge sign that you are not
worth much to him. No one is talking about expensive, mind- blowing gifts here.
No matter how financially- strapped a man is, it’s something to boast about if
he still gets his partner a present on that day. If for nothing it signifies
undying commitment and gives off this “not- even- lack- of- money- can- stop-
us feeling.” And then he actually shows up empty- handed? Why did he come in
the first place? To have his physical needs met (food and sex) and walk away
satiated in the morning? Men are proud beings and for him not to get you a gift
on Valentine’s only shows you one thing: He does not care what you think of
him. That is the lowest any man can go. So would you continue staying with a
man like that?
Source: TheNetng.com
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